DETACHABLE ATTACHMENT

25 Apr

Most( out of the family) relationships in this world come with an expiry date.

Such relationships are easily understood and digested by most people.

But there are some which are pidilite relationships. Though there are no strings attached to these they seem to go on even on an obstacle – ridden track .My relationships with past students is a typical example of this type.

Each year I make special relationships with about 40 kids and their families. The year passes. People move out of coverage year and the  network becomes weak. But not always. Parents  and children sometimes come back to the same place after yet another transfer.The spark of recognition when one meets them again is that of 1000 volts!

We often meet as old friends. The tie is now not of teacher and taught.There are some kids who stay as a part of our lives even after 15+ years.

A teacher’s life is forever youthful .As a teacher ,I would like my kids to grow out of my need .They move to 6th standard and most of them gradually outgrow the need to connect to me on a daily basis. This is normal.

When this doesn’t happen , I am confused. There is one little girl Sweta who understands only attachment. She is extremely sensitive , thoughtful,very helpful and friendly.She has become a sort of a ‘trishanku’She is not  been able to adjust inthe new class as the kids have been shuffled. Nor is she able to come to terms with her new classmates ,teachers and teaching methodology.

I have tried several methods to help her face the reality that she can’t be with me always.Some have had  partial effect,some -none at all.She walks around as if I have wronged her by not following her to the next class.My friends who teach her have also been very patient and loving towards her.Progress has been very slow.She is jealous of the kids in my new class.She feels that I won’t like her henceforth.Her  parents are also trying to make her see light.

I hope God soon gives  her the knowledge that a little bit of detachment should be seen in all attachments.

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8 Responses to “DETACHABLE ATTACHMENT”

  1. greatunknown April 25, 2007 at 5:44 pm #

    “A teacher’s life is forever youthful.” How true!
    I envy teachers and their zest for life. It has always been my desire to be a teacher, alas I didn’t make any attempts towards that end; except to teach at school and college whilst I was still a student:)

    “The spark of recognition when one meets them again is that of 1000 volts!” Wow! Well said!

  2. rk April 26, 2007 at 3:13 am #

    neel 3,
    philosophical meaning adagide ee postalli. bahala thanks.

    btw, headline has a typo error. (ATTACHNENT >> ATTACHMENT)

  3. neel3 April 26, 2007 at 6:10 am #

    Thanks.
    rkji,Oops!!
    I have now corrected it. Thanks.

  4. Vani April 26, 2007 at 9:44 am #

    I had heard from Amma that you wanted to teach only KG Classes… teaching Std V….. this is news to me….but of course, the teacher-taught relationship is like that….and who will want to leave your class and move forward? Poor Sweta…she has my sympathies….In my school, we usually had one teacher for all the three years of Middle school and one for all three years of high school. I understand how Sweta must feel, leaving you and moving to another class and another teacher….hope she gets out of it soon!

  5. mouna April 26, 2007 at 1:42 pm #

    we faced a similar situation(or rather my teachers faced one) mrs. rozario taught us english in class 9. we expected her to be our class teacher in class 10, we were very fond of her. but, mrs.vincent became our class teacher in class 10. at first, we felt bitter. as time proceeded, we grew to like her. we had an amazing time with her. she was patient.

    now, when i think of it, we were so lucky to have both of them! 🙂

    all it needs is time, i think. and swetha will soon like her new environment. all the best!

  6. destinationsrik May 2, 2007 at 1:02 pm #

    That sweet little Shweta will soon grow in to a young lady and forgets her teacher…. As in any other case, “Upadhyayah cha Vaidyah Karyante aprayojakah”, this attachment fades away!!

    But the meaning behind this post…. remains forver as the impact of fragrance of a rain.

    I wish all the teachers here, for all they sacrifice and for all the little values they want their children imbibe from them…

    Teachers are the builders of real, strong, sensual and a performing society. Hats off to them…

  7. neela May 3, 2007 at 3:07 pm #

    dhanyavaadari

  8. praneshachar May 11, 2007 at 9:22 am #

    Teaching is a noble profession and you are so committed to your profession and it is really great. now a days students are lucky if they get a true teacher because most of them are busy with so many other things.
    swetha will come out of her attachment and will realise but it happens with quite a bit of students. let god give her all courage to go ahead and reach the goals set by her.
    you have thrown a insight to a life of true teacher and as you mentioned “A teacher’s life is forever youthful.” GREAT & SIMPLY GREAT
    “The spark of recognition when one meets them again is that of 1000 volts!”
    IT IS 100% TRUE AND IT WILL BE SO ALSO WITH TAUGHT

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