How to deal with pre-adolescence

3 Feb

Each day,each moment my son’s behaviour or misbehaviour scares me. Am I dealing it in the appropriate manner/am I being too harsh/too soft/too tense—such doubts keep pestering me.

Am I using archaic values and priorities to judge him?

Am I just extending my generation’s notions on him?

Should I just ignore minor transgressions? What are minor and what are major misconducts? Who should judge?

He or I ?

Are all these fears of my growing up as a parent or his growing up into an adult or a combination of the two ?

Is the whole process of upbringing of children just a case of trial and error? Or are there people who know for sure what to actually do ?

Whom to look up to as guides?

Can anybody really guide another/can one be dependent on another for such a crucial aspect of one’s life?

God alone should guide me!!


7 Responses to “How to deal with pre-adolescence”

  1. Vani February 5, 2007 at 4:28 am #


    Happy to note the entry of another thought box in the blog world.
    Quite serious stuff, I must say, and nt an iota of experience or knowledge about predicament.

    I feel you are quite strict while dealing with V, guess you need to chill out a bit. V is quite intelligent and I guess understands when you set down rules for him.

    Anyway, good beginning, nice theme too.

    Keep the posts coming.

  2. Suresh Gundappa February 7, 2007 at 12:21 pm #

    First and fore most to me is we need to accept them as they are and second whatever you are telling do you believe in it totally?
    third – listen to them and they have lot of valid points.

    Every child is born as rebel it’s just that parents make them ordinary soul

    cheers , Nice blog!

  3. rk February 16, 2007 at 6:10 am #


    i am bellur. came here via vani’s blog.

    the questions you have posed are really thought provoking. very eager to know the answers myself coz in a short time, i may be asking the same questions. after reading this post, i felt that you are a person who is interested in working towards self enlightenment.

    please do write more about parenting tips and your experiences with your son and how you deal with him.

    happy blogging.

  4. Veena March 1, 2007 at 10:18 am #

    Different angle al together..

    Wonder if books will help them to think better, there is a book ‘7 effective habits of teens’, I had bought a copy to my yonger brother when he was 14, he seemed to have liked it.. HE keeps remembering that book every now & then, now he is a grown up good individual, that was just one thing thats all… 🙂

  5. neel3 March 4, 2007 at 6:01 am #

    Thanks.I will get that book.He is a bookworm .I am sure he will read it.

  6. Veena March 5, 2007 at 7:44 am #

    Bookworm reminds me a radio program, if he likes kannada book ask him to tune FM101.3 om monday afternoon at 1pm..

  7. Veena March 7, 2007 at 7:03 am #
    refer this link to know more about the radio program

    You posted the Q on my blog, you can send emails in case you don’t find any avenue to post such question(which may be irrelevant on a particular photo)…

    Vani will teach you more of such lessons! Make her your GURU like ekalvya 🙂

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