DETACHABLE ATTACHMENT

Most( out of the family) relationships in this world come with an expiry date.

Such relationships are easily understood and digested by most people.

But there are some which are pidilite relationships. Though there are no strings attached to these they seem to go on even on an obstacle – ridden track .My relationships with past students is a typical example of this type.

Each year I make special relationships with about 40 kids and their families. The year passes. People move out of coverage year and the  network becomes weak. But not always. Parents  and children sometimes come back to the same place after yet another transfer.The spark of recognition when one meets them again is that of 1000 volts!

We often meet as old friends. The tie is now not of teacher and taught.There are some kids who stay as a part of our lives even after 15+ years.

A teacher’s life is forever youthful .As a teacher ,I would like my kids to grow out of my need .They move to 6th standard and most of them gradually outgrow the need to connect to me on a daily basis. This is normal.

When this doesn’t happen , I am confused. There is one little girl Sweta who understands only attachment. She is extremely sensitive , thoughtful,very helpful and friendly.She has become a sort of a ‘trishanku’She is not  been able to adjust inthe new class as the kids have been shuffled. Nor is she able to come to terms with her new classmates ,teachers and teaching methodology.

I have tried several methods to help her face the reality that she can’t be with me always.Some have had  partial effect,some -none at all.She walks around as if I have wronged her by not following her to the next class.My friends who teach her have also been very patient and loving towards her.Progress has been very slow.She is jealous of the kids in my new class.She feels that I won’t like her henceforth.Her  parents are also trying to make her see light.

I hope God soon gives  her the knowledge that a little bit of detachment should be seen in all attachments.